Author: Anthony Irtelli

  • Taking on the 2.6 Challenge!

    Taking on the 2.6 Challenge!

    Like many charities, our fundraising has been hit hard by the COVID-19 pandemic.

    With many fundraising events postponed or cancelled, we are joining the 2.6 Challenge to ensure our vital services for young people can continue. Created by the UK’s mass participation sports event industry, the 2.6 Challenge is a nationwide fundraising campaign to Save the UK’s Charities.

    Fancy having fun over the weekend?

    The 2.6 Challenge is your chance to be a Home Hero and raise funds from your very own living room, bedroom, balcony or garden! There are no rules – apart from the Government guidelines on how to exercise safely during this time. The main thing is to get active, have fun and pledge whatever you can to help.

    Launching on Sunday 26 April (the same day as the London Marathon – the world’s biggest one-day annual fundraising event – would have taken place), this is a challenge for all ages and abilities. Just get thinking of an activity based around the numbers 26 or 2.6 and complete it on or from Sunday April 26. You can get involved by clicking here.

    Looking for some inspiration?

    Shout out to Poppy the superhero! The amazing four-year-old is riding her bike 26 miles over the next week. For inspiration or to support Poppy click here.

    Cheers to the Linn family! The whole family is doing 26 challenges (26 press-ups anyone?!) to raise money for YMCA DLG. Check out what they’re doing here.

    • Race your family to see who can do the most star jumps in 26 seconds
    • Run 2.6 miles around your garden or house
    • Bake 26 cupcakes or muffins and treat your family, housemates or neighbours

    Don’t forget to share pictures or video of your challenge on social media so we can applaud you! Use the hashtag #TwoPointSixChallenge and tag in @YMCADLG

     

     

  • Helping vulnerable young people to access counselling, support and advice

    Helping vulnerable young people to access counselling, support and advice

    During the coronavirus outbreak, our number one priority is keeping services running for some of the most vulnerable people in our community. This includes the services delivered by YMCA Dialogue – counselling and therapy for children, families and young people. We are currently working hard to adapt our projects so that we can ensure every young person is supported during this anxious time, whether though remote support, web support or phone calls.

    As part of these adaptations, we have fast-tracked the launch of a new website that supports young people with their mental health and wellbeing – e-wellbeing, set to launch at the end of this month. Mental health systems and pathways are often complicated and difficult to navigate, and this website simplifies the process of accessing the right help, in the right place, at the right time. It will provide self-help guidance and information about different aspects of mental health difficulties and helps them decide if they need help from a professional service. They will then be connected with information about services in their local area.

    AS a result of the COVID-19 outbreak, now more than ever, it is crucial that young people are supported to manage their mental health positively. It will help relieve pressure on GP surgeries and A&E where possible and help keep young people informed about which services are able to support them as service models change.

    We know that everyone is facing unexpected challenges at the moment, but we have never needed your support more. If you are able, here are three ways you can help:

    1. Help us secure laptops and tablets to ensure young people have a means of continuing counselling, as well as connecting with their communities. Please email [email protected] if you are able to support
    2. We are looking for animators and content creators to create digital assets for the e-wellbeing platform on a pro bono basis. Please email [email protected] if you are able to support
    3. Share a message of kindness and encouragement for a young person in isolation or a key worker after a long shift. Don’t forget to tag us – @YMCADLG on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram and use the hashtag #Here4U
  • Autism and COVID-19: Promoting understanding and acceptance

    Autism and COVID-19: Promoting understanding and acceptance

    With this week being Autism Awareness Week, Suzi Payton, Skills Advisor for Horsham, Crawley and Mid Sussex, writes about her experience supporting neurodivergent young people in the light of the current pandemic. Suzi writes:

    As a Skills Advisor for YMCA DownsLink Group I love working with young people to help them realise their potential and help set them on a path that is inspiring and meaningful.

    Before joining YMCA DLG I was a teacher of P.E, IT, Health and Social Care and more recently a lead teacher in a specialist therapeutic residential special school for boys with complex social, emotional and mental health difficulties.

    As a **neurodivergent person myself, I am passionate about celebrating the strengths that come with brain differences as well as helping others to understand, accept and support those who work extra hard to function in their everyday lives and careers.

    You can see a strengths diagram here

    In this time of uncertainty and change for everyone, anxiety levels are rising. For many (not all, let’s not assume) autistic and **neurodivergent people these feelings can be felt more intensely. Changes to routine can be a source of anxiety as well as fear of the unknown. How do we help autistic people manage these feelings and cope?

    First, don’t assume anything. Don’t assume that:

    • They are ok as they don’t go out much anyway
    • They must be struggling because they are autistic
    • They are ok because they say they are
    • They didn’t have much of a routine anyway so not much has changed for them
    • They can make a new routine by themselves

    Instead try the following tips, remembering that they may not work for all as all autistic people are different with their own individual personalities:

    • Keep in regular contact through call/text/email asking how they are and reminding that you are there if they need anything
    • Ask specific questions i.e. ‘how are you feeling about the coronavirus? How has your life changed? What activities are you doing to help you cope?’
    • Help to create a daily schedule i.e. wake up, breakfast, shower, yoga/workout, writing/drawing, TV, call to relative, gaming, lunch, career research etc. Be mindful that for some a full schedule can be a good thing but for others it may create pressure and therefore stress so make sure this is led by the young person. Make verbally clear that the schedule is a guide and does not need to be completed exactly. Also, discuss reasons why the schedule may not happen exactly as it is written such as: change of mind, someone may call at a different time, not feeling like doing the activity. This can help promote flexibility. Encourage creativity; for some the same thing each day might be appropriate but for others variety may be needed (again speak to the individual and see what works for them)
    • Provide opportunities to discuss the situation and the virus as doing so can help with processing. Be aware that talking/discussing may not be the young persons preferred method of communication so again find out what is and offer opportunities for expressing thoughts, feelings, observations i.e. writing, poetry, art
    • Provide or direct to factual information to help keep worries in perspective. Be aware that for some too much information can lead to obsessive thoughts/ruminating and sometimes the only way to have a break from these is distraction techniques i.e. play a games console, create art, have conversations about the person’s interests etc.
    • If bored encourage people to create something based on their interests i.e. a blog, comic (hand drawn or through an app), make a website, make a video, write a story or book
    • Remind people that this situation is temporary

    The links below provide information on autism and PDA (a profile on the autism spectrum) and give further information on how to support:

    National Autistic Society

    PDA society 

    Article on why acceptance and understanding is needed and not just ‘acceptance’

    **neurodivergent: It is estimated that around 1 in 7 people (more than 15% of people in the UK) are neurodivergent, meaning that the brain functions, learns and processes information differently. Neurodivergence includes Attention Deficit Disorders, Autism, Dyslexia and Dyspraxia’ https://archive.acas.org.uk/neurodiversity

    See the video on Neurodiversity on Genius Within’s website here

  • Families Struggling with COVID-19 Urged to Seek Mediation via YMCA YAC

    Families Struggling with COVID-19 Urged to Seek Mediation via YMCA YAC

    Parental eviction due to family breakdown is still a primary cause of homelessness in young people and we’re concerned that the current COVID-19 crisis is already leading to increasing numbers of vulnerable young people facing homelessness.

    Rachel Brett, our Director of Children and Young People, explains:

    “This morning, we had nine young people present as homeless, with COVID-19 (Coronavirus) being cited as a cause. We expect this number to grow as we are likely to be asked to increasingly restrict our movements and remain at home over a longer period of time.

    We are aware that our ability to find housing solutions for young people presenting as homeless has become seriously compromised. It’s challenging to find relatives who are willing or able to take them and the supply of young people’s supported accommodation is under pressure.

    We are all now facing a national emergency.  It’s vital during this very difficult time that young people and parent carers are able to support the national effort by working together and supporting each other as best they can over the next few weeks of confinement. None of us wants to see more young people put at risk through potentially having to sleep rough because of family breakdowns.

    Our Youth Advice Centre (YMCA YAC) in Brighton & Hove works on behalf of the council to provide a single point of access for young people in housing need under the age of 25. The young people that contact YAC have diverse and complex needs including mental health issues, lack of money, drug and alcohol dependency and relationship issues. The way we are being asked to exercise social distancing, reduce our contacts and shield the elderly and those with health conditions is beginning to take its toll on what are already fragile relationships.

    As a community, we’re all managing a lot of anxiety as we adjust to a new way of living and being together. Parents and young people are coming into conflict as tensions between siblings grow. Young people are not fully understanding the need to practise social distancing, still wanting to meet in groups to socialise as they normally would. Young people living with grandparents are not fully appreciating the spread of infection and therefore are being asked to find alternative accommodation, as well as young people who are currently sofa-surfing being asked to leave other households who want to exercise greater precautions.

    We have moved YAC online and details of how to contact them are below alongside other services which may be useful:

    YMCA YAC (Youth Advice Centre) Brighton & Hove

    We will continue taking referrals both via telephone and online.

    Housing advice & Support and Advice will continue via digital means and telephone support (in emergencies face-to-face).

    Family mediation will continue via Zoom video conferencing and telephone support.

    Floating support will continue via digital means and telephone support.

    Telephone01273624432

    Emails for each service:

    YAC Brighton Housing Advice –  [email protected]

    YAC Family Mediation –  [email protected]

    YAC Brighton Support and Advice  [email protected]

    YAC Social Media:

    Facebook

    Instagram

    Links to Additional Support Services:

    Mental Health & Wellbeing Services

     

     

  • 9 Ways to Cope with Anxiety during COVID-19

    9 Ways to Cope with Anxiety during COVID-19

    How to cope with anxiety

    If you are feeling anxious, worried or stressed about COVID-19 (Coronavirus) there are some simple things you can do to help. It’s important to know that feeling concerned or overwhelmed by the news is understandable, especially as your social media channels, which are usually places for fun and relaxation, are also full of it.

    You might be worried about your own health, about someone you love, or, the impact the virus will have on your everyday life, especially if you’re about to take exams or have a job that might be under threat.  If you are feeling anxious here are some simple ideas that may help you to stay calm and reduce your stress levels during the COVID-19 outbreak. Or, jump to the end of the article for links to specific services.     

    1. Talk to someone

    It’s completely normal to feel worried, but if you are starting to feel overwhelmed, it’s important to notice how you’re feeling and talk to someone you trust. You could reach out to a friend, someone in the family, a teacher or a helpline (see the end of the article). Simply talking about how you are feeling can have a positive impact on anxiety.

    If you are living with us, you could talk to your project worker or counsellor.

    2. Separate facts from ‘false news’

    Information about Coronvirus is everywhere and false reports can fuel anxiety. Stay on top of what’s happening by using the Government website, It’s the most up-to-date and reliable source of information.  The NHS website is also a reliable way to check the facts, particularly if you have any worries about symptoms and what you need to look out for or how to respond if you feel unwell.

    Avoid asking friends for this kind of information; it is far better to stick to ‘official’ sources. This applies to social media too, as it is impossible to know which stories and posts are true. It’s all too easy to get absorbed in posts and ‘threads’ which may be both false and alarming. If social media is where you get your news, follow reliable sources such as BBC News.

    The Chief Medical Officer, Chris Whitty, may not look like a superhero, but his daily efforts to offer calm, clear advice about the virus have been heroic. He is consistent in his message that for most people, coronavirus will be a mild illness.

    3. Don’t overexpose yourself to the news & social media

    Many of us are constantly checking the news or our social feeds for updates. This can seem like the best way to gain ‘control’ over the situation. However, the opposite is true, as it is much more likely to lead to feeling overwhelmed and anxious. Try limiting the amount of time you read or watch the news, or, follow related coronavirus ‘threads’ on social media. When you do want to get an update, get it from reputable news sources (as above).

    If you are finding it difficult to stay away from the news, try to actively plan other things to do or limit the amount of time you are on your phone. Rather than message friends, why not give them a call? Actually chatting to a friend creates a much greater connection, and so can be much more comforting. It’s also a really good way to keep up with anyone who is having to self-isolate. Reading, watching a film or going for a walk (at a safe distance from others ?) are all good ways to avoid news binging.

    Taking a break from social media, muting and unfollowing accounts that make you anxious is another option. Remember, with social media, you are in charge of what you see, so if you realise certain accounts (or friends) are fuelling your anxiety, mute them for a while.

    4. Find things that help you feel calm

    Everyone is different, so there isn’t a ‘one size’ fits all approach to finding what works for you. Some of us know what helps us stay calm, but, when we’re in an anxious state, we sometimes become our own worst enemies and ignore it. Instead of going for a run, we reach for a chocolate bar.  Or, we try to distract ourselves and turn to stimulants like cigarettes or alcohol which can leave you feeling worse. If you have struggled with this in the past, this might be a good time to try out some new ways of ‘self-soothing’ such as meditation, yoga, simple breathing techniques or keeping a diary.

    It is also worth remembering that looking after yourself physically will make a difference to your anxiety levels. All the boring advice you’ve probably heard a million times is relevant: eat well, get enough sleep and stay physically active!

    Ideas for reducing anxiety:

    • Physical activity – go for a run (being outside/fresh air will help too) or do online class
    • Play music
    • Call a friend
    • Read a book (try re-reading a favourite book as it can be very calming, it’s like meeting old friends)
    • Hot bath
    • Meditation/Breathing Techniques – lots of apps available to help guide you
    • Write down how you’re feeling or keep a diary

    5. Is the advice around hygiene and handwashing triggering your anxiety?

    For some people, the strong emphasis on increased hygiene and constant handwashing may trigger compulsive thoughts and unhelpful behaviours. If this is happening to you, don’t feel bad about it, but please talk to someone you trust.

    There is advice on the OCD UK website that may be helpful.

    6. How to cope with change to normal life

    It is likely that you will be asked by your school, college or workplace to stay at home for a period of time. If you are living at home, talk to your family about how this will work and share your feelings with them, if you can. We know that this may be a daunting prospect, but try to think of it as an opportunity to live in a different way for a while. If this creates serious concerns for you, contact one of the services at the end of the article.

    If you are living in one of our housing projects, reach out to your project worker and let them know how you’re feeling. They will be able to tell you what is happening in your building and will keep you up to date with the latest advice.

    Think about whether there are new things you might be able to do during this time, how you will stay connected with friends, and, how to prioritise your wellbeing. Thinking about how to deal with it if it happens it will help reduce anxiety.

    7. Dealing with self-isolation

    If you’re not well or have been in contact with people who are not well, you may be asked to ‘self-isolate’. This means staying away from other people to prevent the potential spread of illness. If you find you have been advised to self-isolate, the government have guidelines on their website on how to do this.  Again, if this applies to you living in our accommodation, your project worker will tell you what you need to do.

    Wherever you might be when you self-isolate, think about who you can keep in contact with and how you can use apps such as WhatsApp and Zoom to talk to someone face to face. It’s important that you talk to people you trust during this time and continue to stay connected. They might be in the same situation and can help you navigate anything you are going through.

    If you are on any medication, please do continue taking it, unless advised otherwise by your doctor. If you are worried about getting your prescription, call the pharmacy where you collect your medication or your GP. They can arrange to get your prescription delivered or picked up by someone else.

    Maintain your routine as much as possible by getting up in the morning and going to bed at the same time. Eating regular meals and staying hydrated will help also, as well as taking breaks throughout the day to talk to someone or do something that you enjoy. If it’s possible, try activities in your home that get you moving, like yoga or dancing. There are whole communities of people getting together online to sing, dance and even do pub quizzes.

    8. Looking after your mental health whilst self-isolating

    It’s important during this time that you keep acknowledging how you are feeling and do this regularly. We know that things might continue to feel overwhelming or scary. It’s good for you to talk about this where possible – know that you can say ‘I feel anxious about…’ whenever you need to, and as regularly as you need to.

    You may find that you need extra support, so think about who you can turn to. It could be someone you know or a helpline that can talk to you about how you might be feeling.

    9. Helpline services available

    YoungMinds Crisis Messenger

    Provides free, 24/7 crisis support across the UK if you are experiencing a mental health crisis

    If you need urgent help text YM to 85258

    All texts are answered by trained volunteers, with support from experienced clinical supervisors

    Texts are free from EE, O2, Vodafone, 3, Virgin Mobile, BT Mobile, GiffGaff, Tesco Mobile and Telecom Plus.

    Childline

    Comforts, advises and protects children 24 hours a day and offers free confidential counselling.

    Phone 0800 1111 (24 hours)

    Chat 1-2-1 with a counsellor online

    The Mix

    Information, support and listening for people under 25.

    Phone 0808 808 4994 (24 hours)

    Get support online

    Samaritans

    24-hour confidential listening and support for anyone who needs it. (Adults included.)

    [email protected]

    Phone 116 123 (24 hours)

  • YMCA WiSE secure £80,000 from Sussex Police & Crime Commissioner

    YMCA WiSE secure £80,000 from Sussex Police & Crime Commissioner

     “Child exploitation is happening in Sussex and is more prevalent than people may think.”  Katy Bourne, Sussex Police & Crime Commissioner

    As part of ongoing efforts to support victims of Child Sexual Exploitation (CSE), Sussex Police & Crime Commissioner Katy Bourne has awarded £80,000 to our highly successful YMCA WiSE project.

    Figures released on 18th March 2020 (national CSE day) demonstrate a 19% increase in these crimes over the last 12 months from 823 in 2018 to 977 in 2019.

    Speaking about the funding, Sussex Police said: “Across Sussex specialist support services have been stretched to cope with this influx in young people and their families coming forward for help.

    Among those successful in their bid for funding is YMCA DownsLink Group. Their project, YMCA WiSE, will use part of the £80,000 grant to address a current gap in services by working with parents, carers and families of those affected by CSE.

    The services offer one-to-one counselling and help young victims report and give evidence, which can often be a traumatic experience. They will also put preventative measures in place by educating young people and parents/carers on how to spot the signs of grooming in the first instance.”

    Our Head of Youth Involvement, Mark Cull explains why the funding is so important:

    “At a time when we are seeing ever-increasing demand on our YMCA WiSE Child Sexual Exploitation project, the funding from our Sussex Police & Crime Commissioner is vital in helping us support victims and also through our work, help bring perpetrators of child abuse in front of the Criminal Justice System. We thank Katy and her team for their continued support of YMCA WiSE.”

    To find out more about child sexual exploitation visit YMCA WiSE.